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etsy:

It’s like a house covered in fairytale dragon scales. 

thisoldapt:

Magical lands of magical magic via tileblr -ts

madsexontop:

Outdoors…
Mr Madness

I’ll never punish my daughter for saying no.

The first time it comes out of her mouth, I’ll smile gleefully. As she repeats “No! No! No!” I’ll laugh, overjoyed. At a young age, she’ll have mastered a wonderful skill. A skill I’m still trying to learn. I know I’ll have to teach her that she has to eat her vegetables, and she has to take a nap. But “No” is not wrong. It is not disobedience.

1. She will know her feelings are valid.
2. She will know that when I no longer guide her, she still has a right to refuse.

The first time a boy pulls her hair after she says no, and the teacher tells her “boys will be boys,” we will go to her together, and explain that my daughter’s body is not a public amenity. That boy isn’t teasing her because he likes her, he is harassing her because it is allowed. I will not reinforce that opinion. If my son can understand that “no means no” so can everyone else’s.

3. She owes no one her silence, her time, or her cooperation.

The first time she tells a teacher, “No, that is wrong,” and proceeds to correct his public school, biased rhetoric, I’ll revel in the fact that she knows her history; that she knows our history. The first time she tells me “No” with the purpose and authority that each adult is entitled, I will stop. I will apologize. I will listen.

4. She is entitled to her feelings and her space. I, even a a parent, have no right to violate them.
5. No one has a right to violate them.

The first time my mother questions why I won’t make her kiss my great aunt at Christmas, I’ll explain that her space isn’t mine to control. That she gains nothing but self doubt when she is forced into unwanted affection. I’ll explain that “no” is a complete sentence. When the rest of my family questions why she is not made to wear a dress to our reunion dinner. I will explain that her expression is her own. It provides no growth to force her into unnecessary and unwanted situation.

6. She is entitled to her expression.

When my daughter leaves my home, and learns that the world is not as open, caring, and supportive as her mother, she will be prepared. She will know that she can return if she wishes, that the real world can wait. She will not want to. She will not need to. I will have prepared her, as much as I can, for a world that will try to push her down at every turn.

7. She is her own person. She is complete as she is.

I will never punish my daughter for saying no. I want “No” to be a familiar friend. I never want her to feel that she cannot say it. She will know how to call on “No” whenever it is needed, or wanted.

Lessons I Will Teach, Because the World Will Not — Y.S. (via poetryinspiredbyyou)

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infinite-waffles:

thtwhitegurrl:

slutdust:

I bought my friend an elephant for their room.

They said “Thank you.”

I said “Don’t mention it.”

Is there a joke here that 15 thousand people get but I don’t?

Yup

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definitive:

wannyy:

getabducted:

pokec0re:

megan15:

1hey:

holy shit

Fucking Christ are you joking

perfection

it’s not even fair. life isn’t fair. *flips a desk*

Officially the most attractive human being on this planen jesus christ I WANT TO LOOK LIKE HER?????

rsitjeritjetr

tattooworkers:

Tattoo by @osimstattoo

cracked:

We spoke to Gary Noesner, a 30-year veteran of crisis negotiation who was present for the first half of the Waco standoff of 1993. And he is AMAZING at flirting.

4 Aspects of Hostage Situations Movies Didn’t Prepare Me For

#4. Hostage Negotiation Is Like Picking Up a Date

As Noesner once explained to an audience of university students: “Guys, if you’re truly interested in a young lady in here, listen to them … Listen to them talk about their likes and interests, and ask good follow-up questions to show that you are interested and paying close attention to what they have to say.” Noesner uses that same approach for high-stakes negotiations. The criminals don’t usually plan on taking hostages, after all — they’re just panicking at a situation that has escalated beyond their control. … After every successful negotiation, Noesner would ask perpetrators what it was he said that made them agree to surrender — and the answer was always “I don’t remember what you said, but I liked how you said it.”

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“I could have every single part of your body pressed against mine and I’d still say ‘pull me closer’.”

(via thatkindofwoman)

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